Your Future Mother-in-Law: Friend or Foe?
Is it a cliché? Is your future mother-in-law going to drive you crazy? Will she enjoy torturing you endlessly? Well, maybe. There are definitely some women out there that will drive you right to the mental hospital. There are also women that are going to embrace you as part of the family and ask you to call her Mom.
Every mother is different. Some become so protective of their sons that no woman is ever going to be good enough for their little boy. The most that we can hope for is that our mother-in-law will at least not be completely opposed to the marriage. When a mother opposes a marriage, she can make all of the planning very difficult and full of drama. We all know that there is enough drama when it comes to wedding planning without adding fuel to the fire with a future mother-in-law that stands in the way at every turn.
Shelley and Adam were planning their wedding almost a year in advance so that they could try and plan as stress-free as possible. The church was booked. The reception venue was booked. The invitations were ordered. Then Adam’s mother demanded that the date be changed because it conflicted with her vacation with some of her girlfriends. This was a trip that was planned after the wedding date had been set. Did she do it on purpose? Sure seems like it. Luckily for Shelley, Adam spoke to his mother and would not give in. She whined and moaned and made the wedding planning a nightmare, but in the end the wedding was still beautiful and Adam’s mother went and had a pretty good time.
Where does your future mother-in-law fit in? Is she welcoming or is she causing drama? Will you be calling her Mom once the wedding is over? Perhaps you are already calling her mom. We want to know about your relationship with your future mother-in-law.
August 19th, 2007 at 12:47 pm
My future MIL sounds a lot like Adam’s mother! She is refusing to have any family pictures taken because she doesn’t like to have her picture taken. She has chosen a dress that is NOT appropriate. It is more like a cocktail dress then a dress for an elegant wedding. Before we decided to get married, she was pretty nice to me. Now she butts heads with me at every turn.
I am hoping that after the wedding she will accept the fact that I am part of the family.
August 19th, 2007 at 2:09 pm
Hi Almost a Mrs.
It sounds like you have a mother-in-law like the one from Everybody Loves Raymond…. I think sometimes the problem is due to the generation gap.
Remember, we can only be responsible for our own behavior!
Good Luck,
Lori
I Do! Wedding Favors
August 25th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
All my married girlfriends hate me a little because of my relationship with my future mother-in-law. Her name is Vicki and she is the biggest sweetheart in the world. We have gotten along perfectly since the day we met. My mother keeps telling me how lucky I am to get along so well with her. My mom was tortured by hers for 25 years. My sister is a little unlucky with her mother-in-law also, but living next door to her doesn’t help the situation any. With all the negative situations with MIL’s around me, I do really understand how lucky I am for the sweetest, nicest future mother-in-law in the world.
August 25th, 2007 at 5:18 pm
Hi,
Thanks for the post, It really is true, that you marry into the famaily!
Lori
I Do! Wedding Favors
September 14th, 2007 at 11:52 am
All I can say is make sure you know who your future mother in law really is before you marry him. Nightmares happen all the time and you will be stuck with yours forever.
September 14th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
Janet